Saturday, December 10, 2011

It's all about the Magic

I've been thinking a lot about magic lately.  Not the Harry Potter, magic wand-wielding, spell-casting kind.  And not the I'm-turning-into-some-kind-of-weirdo kind.  I've been thinking about the kind of magic that is inherent to childhood, or at least the kind that is afforded in a happy childhood not marred too badly by trauma and/or the adult world.

It is this kind of magic that I long so much to protect for my girls.  The kind of magical thinking and perception that in certain ways goes along with youth and innocence.  And I don't believe that I'm really romanticizing here.  I know my girls' world is not like a fairy picture book, and I'm sure their brains are not entirely pure and angelic, but they're pretty damn close.  And when I think about the magic of childhood and the innocence of early youth, I can't help but want to keep that world as magical as possible for as long as possible.  I don't want to stunt them and keep them unnaturally childish, but I certainly also would like them to emerge from the misty fog of youthful magic at their own pace and their own time.  And if they slip back and forth in and out of it, hopefully for a long time, even better.

And this, I realize, is one of the things I love about the winter holidays, at least as we celebrate them in our little family.  I'm all in favor of Santa Claus, not the one sitting under florescent lights in an overheated shopping mall, but the one in our imaginations.  And why not throw in some elves and a few flying reindeer.  And a snowman who comes to life?  The more the merrier, I say.

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The everyday is magical for my girls.  When I'm quiet, and I'm patient, and I close my big mouth, I can hear it.  Like the other day when Ninna, dressed in the get-up below, asked me 

"Does my outfit look right, mama?  Does it really look like I'm a fireman?  I think it looks like a fireman girl, at least." 


In my mind, I thought: Yes, baby girl.  A blue thermal shirt, an orange Hawaiian-print skirt, wicked-witch-of-the-west legwarmers, and too-small fairy slippers is just about the most perfect outfit I can imagine for a girl fireman.  I couldn't have done it better myself.  I love that your mind's eye visualizes the world in this way.

And on the outside, I nodded and smiled.




Bojey was harder to capture on film this day, as she prefers photos taken on her own terms, at times of her choosing.   But she did invite me into her world, letting me know that she was a construction worker with a broken leg (see sparkly legwarmer on her right calf).  Being three, she is even deeper into her world, sharing far less of it aloud and living far more as if it is fact.  Which, of course, it is.

12 comments:

MaryAnne said...

I love the magic of childhood. And the photos of your girls that you picked for this post.

barefoot mama said...

part of this post made me cry and other parts made me laugh. The Magic you speak of is something I find so hard to put into words or explain. It is there...I can see it.. I can feel it and I know as a Mama I am responsible for protecting this beautiful thing which I see as THE MAGIC OF CHILDHOOD! Really beautiful post~ Barefoot Mama

Jaimie said...

MaryAnne--Thanks! That was a fun little photo shoot.

barefoot mama--I'm glad you liked it! I agree; it is somehow very hard to put your finger on that magic, but it is there.

Kathryn Ray said...

... and of course construction workers always wear tutus on the job. giggle

It seems the chicks keep you laughing, which is certainly a good thing. :-)

6512 and growing said...

those *pictures* are magical.
Love everything you're saying here.

KJ@letsgoflyakite said...

This is a beautiful post. You have stated this so well Jaimie. The magic and delight of the chicks and your tree is captured perfectly. I love your blog header with the pomanders and lights. Just magical.
Sometimes we encounter incidents when you some magic was lost and you wonder if we can get it back. I don't like those moments.

Allison said...

I love this. I feel like so many parents want their children to grow up so quickly nowadays. They don't nurture imagination and magic that makes childhood so special. Kids are enrolled in so many programs and activities that they don't have time to play or just BE. It's nice to see an example of a mother letting her kids be kids. I hope I'm able to be similarly nurturing to my little boy as he grows up.

Anonymous said...

Oh, you make me weep! But you also make me laugh, because thinking of elves and Santa and Frosty gets me thinking of David Sedaris and "Eight Black Men", which still cracks me up, after umpteen listens/reads!
-Jill

Andrea said...

I tried leaving a comment on this post the other day, but kept losing my internet connection--I don't remember what I was going to say then, but tonight, as we drove into our driveway, Z said, "Starlight, star bright, first star I see tonight..." and it hit me, that the magic is always there, but I'm not always receptive to it, and then I read this line again, "When I'm quiet, and I'm patient, and I close my big mouth, I can hear it." And I see that's what you were saying all along!

Ngo Family Farm said...

I just wanted to say that I couldn't agree more! You did a beautiful job illustrating that magic with your words and photographs.
-Jaime

Bunmi said...

The magic is quite beautiful. Very beautiful. I'm thinking more and more than adults can have it, too. We never had to let it go and don't have to fear for our children.

Jaimie said...

Thank you all! It's true that we don't have to let go of the magic. It's a challenge in our culture, though, when everything around us seems to suggest that children should "grow up" as fast as possible.